Essential Books To Read on Relationships
When it comes to relationships, we are all a work in progress. Whether with a partner, a family member, or even ourselves, building meaningful connections takes effort, understanding, and plenty of heart. Relationships can feel like a rollercoaster – full of highs, lows, and unexpected turns – but they’re also one of life’s greatest opportunities for growth.
This Valentine’s Day, consider shifting the focus from fleeting gestures to lasting connections. Instead of chocolates or flowers, imagine the impact of a thoughtfully chosen book – one that helps you and your loved one deepen your bond, improve communication, or simply navigate life’s challenges together.
We’ve curated a list of the Top Books on Relationships that offer timeless wisdom, practical tools, and fresh perspectives to strengthen your connections. These books are more than just thoughtful Valentine's Day gifts; they are a way to invest in the relationships that matter most. Whether you are looking to resolve conflicts, improve communication, foster intimacy, cultivate more sovereignty, or grow as a team, these titles will inspire and guide you every step of the way. Let’s dive in.
Our Top Books on Love and Relationships:
1. It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life by Jillian Turecki
A healthy relationship starts from within, and this transformative new release provides the ultimate roadmap to help you love yourself and attract the love you truly deserve.
In her debut book, Jillian Turecki reveals nine core truths about love and self-acceptance, offering powerful self-healing techniques to repair your relationship with yourself. With practical strategies, guiding questions, and tools, she empowers readers to break free from limiting beliefs and patterns that often hold them back, shifting the focus inward to create lasting change.
What sets It Begins with You apart is its compassionate and holistic approach, blending therapeutic insights, somatic techniques, real-life case studies, and actionable tips. Jillian gently encourages readers to confront their inner barriers and embark on a journey of self-discovery to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
As a renowned relationship coach, teacher, and host of the popular podcast Jillian on Love, Jillian Turecki shares her expertise with warmth and wisdom. Let this book be your guide to transforming your life and embracing the love you deserve.
2. Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime by Julie Menanno
Are you prepared to dive into the world of healthy relationships? If so, you’ll definitely want to grab a copy of Secure Love by Julie Menanno! This enlightening guide is all about the benefits of secure attachment, and it’s packed with practical tools you can use to enrich your love life.
What really sets this book apart is Julie's thoughtful, step-by-step approach. It’s designed to empower both you and your partner to create a safe, fulfilling relationship built on the principles of secure attachment. You’ll find engaging exercises and relatable stories that help you uncover your unique attachment styles, meet each other's emotional needs, and enhance your communication skills – all while sharing the journey together.
As a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Julie brings deep expertise and compassion to her work. Through her popular Instagram account, @TheSecureRelationship, she inspires millions to cultivate meaningful connections. Secure Love will help you reinforce your bond and create a joyful relationship that stands the test of time.
3. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
This book explores the emotional landscape of adult attachment theory, so simply and profoundly that we made a video about it reflecting on how this helped our own relationship. It offers a comforting perspective on the profound connections formed in romantic relationships, capturing the essence of how we bond and relate to one another, all while providing a compassionate view of our emotional journeys.
So, why should Attached be on your reading list? One of the top books on relationships, Attached provides actionable tools to foster deeper connections and more fulfilling partnerships. It encourages couples to examine their own attachment styles and communication patterns, setting the stage for deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Whether as a personal read or a thoughtful Valentine’s Day gift, it’s a guide to navigating the emotional dynamics that shape our most important bonds.
Written by Dr. Amir Levine, a renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist, this book blends his clinical expertise with a deep understanding of how our brains shape relationships. Partnering with Rachel Heller, who honed her skills in social psychology at Columbia University, they provide practical, science-backed guidance to help readers build stronger, more meaningful connections with the people who matter most.
4. How To Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness and Compassion by Yung Pueblo
Coming in April 2025, this highly anticipated book on relationships offers profound insights on love, healing, and connection. Yung Pueblo’s reflections on embracing change, practicing honesty, and engaging in selfless listening have the power to transform anyone on their healing journey.
This is exactly why How To Love Better deserves a spot on our Valentine's Day gift list. It delves into the themes of love, compassion, and personal growth, encouraging readers to cultivate self-awareness, embrace vulnerability, and build deeper, more meaningful relationships. While it won’t arrive in time for Valentine’s Day, we encourage you to pre-order this upcoming release and secure a copy for your spring reading list.
Diego Perez, who writes under the name Yung Pueblo, is not just a name on a cover; he’s a dedicated meditator and a #1 New York Times bestselling author. His uplifting writing and workshops have positively impacted millions, guiding them on their journeys of self-healing, nurturing healthy relationships, and uncovering invaluable wisdom through deep self-reflection. His work radiates hope and inspiration, reminding us that we’re all in this together.
5. Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection by Julie Schwartz Gottman and John Gottman
Experience the magic of transforming conflicts into opportunities for connection with this groundbreaking book, Fight Right. This transformative guide redefines how we view relationships by showing that disagreements aren’t just unavoidable – they can actually be a vital part of even the strongest couples' journeys. Instead of shying away from conflict, you'll discover practical strategies to handle it in a way that deepens intimacy and fosters understanding.
We truly believe that this book can be a game changer for couples looking to enhance their communication and strengthen their bond.
Written by the esteemed Drs. John and Julie Gottman, world-renowned researchers and clinical psychologists, this book draws from their life’s work in uncovering the secrets of healthy relationships. Their pioneering work at the Love Lab and their engaging workshops have already helped countless couples cultivate stronger, more fulfilling partnerships. So why not take that courageous leap toward a more resilient and joyful relationship? Your love story deserves it!
6. The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About by Mel Robbins
This may not be your typical book on love and relationships, but Mel Robbins' The Let Them Theory offers a refreshingly simple yet powerful idea: let go of the need to control others. By embracing this perspective, we unlock deeper joy and foster more meaningful connections.
We absolutely love this book because it brings a compassionate perspective to our everyday lives. It encourages us to accept and release our expectations. This change in mindset can truly transform the way we connect with those around us. With practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and managing our expectations, the book helps us build relationships that are not only healthier but also more fulfilling.
As a bestselling author and motivational speaker, Mel Robbins is a trusted expert on motivation, confidence, and mindset. Her straightforward techniques have inspired millions through her books, podcast, and talks. If you are ready to embrace a mindset shift that can transform your relationships and your life, this book is a must-read or a must-gift to those you care about!
7. Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire by Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath
This heartfelt book isn’t just a guide – it’s a personal roadmap to breaking free from codependent patterns and building relationships rooted in choice, honesty, safety, and mutual respect.
What makes Liberated Love truly special is its gentle invitation to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery. Packed with valuable tools and insights, it empowers readers to cultivate authentic connections and nurture healthy dynamics in all areas of life.
Authored by the inspiring duo of Mark Groves, a passionate Human Connection Specialist and founder of Create the Love, and Kylie McBeath, a Certified Health Coach and co-founder of Zura Health, the book radiates wisdom and compassion. Through their seminars, workbooks, and coaching, Mark and Kylie have transformed countless lives – and their passion to help others shines through every page of this book.
Liberated Love is a must-read for anyone ready to embrace the beauty of liberated, fulfilling relationships.
8. Love Her Wild by Atticus
Atticus's Love Her Wild is like a warm, poetic embrace – a collection that captures the raw beauty of love, adventure, and the divine feminine. Perfect for Valentine's Day, these heartfelt verses celebrate life's tender moments, making it an unforgettable gift for someone you cherish.
What sets this collection apart is Atticus’s ability to intertwine romance, loss, and self-discovery in a way that feels both personal and universal. His words resonate deeply, inspiring readers to see the magic in the every day and the wonder in human connection.
As one of Instagram’s most beloved poets (@atticuspoetry), Atticus has touched millions with his sincere, romantic musings. Love Her Wild is more than just a book – it’s a soulful reminder to embrace love in all its forms and a thoughtful Valentine's Day gift that speaks directly to the heart.
9. Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski
Looking for a Valentine’s Day gift that’s as passionate as it is profound? Come Together by Emily Nagoski is the perfect way to spark deeper intimacy and connection. This isn’t just another book on relationships; it’s a bold, science-backed guide that dives into the intricacies of sexual desire and connection like no other.
What sets this book apart is its unique ability to address the real, everyday challenges couples face in the bedroom with empathy, clarity, and actionable tools. Nagoski artfully blends science and heart, offering practical advice that empowers you and your partner to overcome obstacles and cultivate a bond that’s truly one of a kind.
Emily Nagoski’s approachable style, rooted in her expertise as a sex educator, makes complex concepts feel relatable and achievable. Whether you are looking to reignite the spark, deepen your emotional connection, or explore new heights in your relationship, Come Together helps you discover how to create a connection that’s steamy, satisfying, and built to last.
10. milk and honey by Rupi Kaur
Rupi Kaur’s milk and honey is a poetic masterpiece that explores the raw and unfiltered experiences of love, heartbreak, trauma, healing, and femininity. This deeply personal collection takes readers on an emotional journey, highlighting the resilience and beauty that emerge even from life’s darkest chapters.
What sets milk and honey apart is Kaur’s fearless vulnerability and unflinching honesty. Each poem resonates with a universal truth, offering comfort, empowerment, and hope. Her words feel like a hand reaching out to guide readers through the complexities of relationships and the process of self-discovery.
As a #1 New York Times bestselling author, Rupi Kaur has created a global phenomenon. Her poetry, translated into over 40 languages and loved by millions, serves as a powerful reminder of our shared human experience. A thoughtful and tender gift that is also perfect for Valentine’s Day, milk and honey is a timeless ode to the strength and beauty found in life’s imperfections.
Celebrating Love with the Best Book on Relationships
This Valentine's Day, give a gift that goes beyond the surface – a gift that nurtures connection, understanding, and growth in your relationship. By sharing the wisdom and insights from these carefully chosen books, you are offering your partner more than just a present. You’re inviting them into a deeper, more meaningful bond.
In a fast-paced world full of distractions, these relationship books stand as heartfelt reminders to slow down and invest in the love you share. They spark conversations that matter, strengthen your emotional foundation, and unearth new dimensions of your relationship.
So, make this Valentine’s Day unforgettable by choosing a gift that celebrates your journey of love and learning. Whether it’s reigniting intimacy, fostering open communication, or simply cherishing time together, these books are the perfect way to show your partner how much they mean to you. What better adventure is there than growing in love together?